If
you’ve ever raised a small child, you know the “joy” of denying them what they
want. When Kayleigh was very little, we
used to go to a Mexican restaurant whose owner liked to give her a bag of
M&Ms every time we went in. This was
very generous, but it also made life a bit difficult. Neurologists tell us that the human brain
isn’t fully developed until we’re in our mid-twenties. Our pre-frontal cortex is incomplete, and
that means we don’t correlate actions with consequences, and we don’t have
impulse control. Which explains why car
insurance companies charge so much to people before they hit 25; and why young
people are especially susceptible to addiction; and why teenaged boys who otherwise
seem intelligent can do incredibly stupid things; and why it’s an exercise in
futility to try to convince a three-year old that she shouldn’t eat candy
before dinner. So Carrie and I had to
come up with elaborate strategies to keep Kayleigh from seeing the candy or
thinking about the candy until the meal was done. In fact, we came up with a code for talking
about M&Ms in front of our daughter, “You take her for a walk, and I’ll go
get the upside-down Ws.” Now, if you
don’t have kids, you may be wondering, “Why not just give her the doggone
candy?” Because candy is nice, but one
cannot live on it. Our daughter needed
real food. If we had let her eat candy
whenever she wanted, that’s all she ever would have eaten. Since she wasn’t old enough to understand that
logic, we had to be the bad guys.
As Christians, we often think that
our main problem is all the toxic stuff in our lives, meaning the overt sins we
commit. “I have these dark, evil
thoughts. I get angry all the time. I resent someone who hurt me. I have a porn addiction and a nasty tendency
to talk about people behind their back.”
We see all those things as like arsenic, slowly killing us spiritually. That’s certainly true. But I would argue that
our main problem isn’t the poison, it’s the stuff that’s the spiritual
equivalent of M&Ms. It’s all the
stuff in our lives that isn’t really evil; it just crowds out any room for a
real relationship with God. We read
passages like Psalm 63:1, My soul thirsts for You, my flesh yearns for You, In
a dry and weary land where there is no water. Or Psalm
73:25, Who do I
have in heaven but You? And I desire nothing on earth but You. If we’re honest, most of us would say we don’t really
feel that way about God very often. Some of us
would say “I’ve never felt that kind of hunger for Him.” If you resonate with that, it’s not because
you’re some sort of spiritual loser; it’s just that you’re filling up on other
stuff. Spiritual junk food is crowding
out the hunger you should have for the only thing that satisfies. So what can we do about that?
Sunday, as I continue my sermon series on spiritual disciplines, "The New You," we'll look at a discipline custom-designed to help us overcome the junk food so we can feast on the Bread of Life.
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